Judge Less and Love More

Scenario #1: Have you ever seen a mother at the store with her children who are screaming and crying; you wish she would tell her child to be quiet because you had a long day?

Scenario #2: Or you meet someone who is struggling to pay their bills and they may go to a food pantry or use food stamps for food?  And you think if they would only work harder, they would have money to pay their bills.

Scenario #3: Or you see woman park in a handicap spot at the store and when she seems to have no physical limitations that would warrant the handicap placard?  You wonder if she is using some else’s handicap placard, just so she can park close to the front door.

Scenario #4: Or you go someone’s home and they do not have electricity in the home because they could not pay their electric bill.  They ask you if you can help them pay for the electric bill.  As you look around the home, there are nice things in the home that you think they could sell to pay bills.

These are all quick judgements that we make and we think these are things they can do to improve their lives.  And if I am honest I have been the person who has had these thoughts at one time or another in my life time.  It is so easy to judge others when we know little to nothing about the other person.  We don’t know their story or what has brought them to where they are today.  And perspective can change this for us very quickly.  Let me explain the scenarios above in a different way.

Scenario #1: The mother at the grocery store with her children that is screaming and crying, has had a day of appointments and this is her last stop before she goes home.  She prayed before taking her child out of the car seat for the 8th time that day, that they would be happy long for her to complete her grocery shopping.  She needs to finish the shopping trip in an hour to her other children get off the bus.  And the other 4 year old daughter that is with her, is cranky because she missed her nap that day and the last thing she wants to do is go into a store!

Scenario #2: The individual that needs additional assistance with food is working a full time job at McDonald’s.  Right now the only place that will hire this person the area, they live is McDonald’s because they aren’t many jobs in the area and they live in a rural community.  They are not able to work more hours or get a second job because they have children that need childcare and a family member that lives with this individual provides it when they are working.  And this family member has a part time job when this person is not working.  And if this individual gets a second job and makes more money, they lose the very benefits that is keeping their family afloat.

Scenario #3: This woman who from the outside watching her may not think she does not have physical limitations that warrant her parking in a handicap parking spot.  Reality is that she has breathing issues that cause her to go into a asthma attack if she walks too far.

Scenario #4:  In the past, this individual has always been on time with their bills because they were working.  Their credit score was excellent.  But while at work they got hurt, they were receiving worker’s compensation.  After a period of time of getting worker’s compensation, the company decides to stop paying worker’s compensation.  This individual has not been cleared to go back to work.  So they can not go get another job but there is not income coming into the home to pay their bills.  Meanwhile they credit score is decreasing rapidly.  And they are worried about losing their home, that they worked so hard to acquire.

“Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you. “Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.” – Matthew 7:1-5

We are commanded to love others and not judge them.

“Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.’ The second is this: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no commandment greater than these.” – Mark 12:30-31

Imagine how this world would be if we would judge others less and love others more.  It would transform our communities into communities that care for each other and transform the hardest of hearts.

So I challenge you before you judge someone, take time to love on them and learn a little about their story.  Most of all show them Christ’s love first because Jesus loved us first and did not judge us for our sin that He did for.

 

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